A Reader’s View of Debi Pearl’s book, Created To Be His Help Meet
Posted by man | Under Uncategorized Thursday Mar 11, 2010An article entitled “Slave Labor” has circulated on the internet for several years. The list was purported to be an extract from a high school Home Economics textbook from 1954. The excerpt trained girls to be housewives whose duty was to get the children, home, and dinner ready for the arrival of her husband. “Try to make your home a place of peace and order where you husband can relax,” is the final point. Treat him like a king, and view yourself as his servant, it was saying.
Women who agree that this sounds like slave labor would NOT appreciate the instruction Debi Pearl presents in her book, Created to Be His Help Meet. In fact, Debi herself was tempted to leave out some of the not-so-politically-correct material for fear it would diminish sales. However, her husband Michael advised her, “If God thought it was important enough to inspire it as part of His Word to us, then you should include it”.
Herein is the first and great quality of this book. It is based solely on the teaching of Scripture without regard to what is ‘popular’. Debi studied the entire Bible, looking for what God taught about the role of women. It is based on the design principle, that God created woman unique with an important role in society. That purpose for a married woman is primarily to serve her husband, to make him a success. If she tries to take on his role, she will not only damage their marriage and home, but will be frustrated for missing God’s design for her as well.
It took four years, thousands of hours, many tears, revisions and distractions, but I finally finished my book. I had no idea God had so much to say to us ladies until I began going through God’s Word verse by verse, writing the different sections of Created to Be His Help Meet.” These words are from Debi herself.
The book could be summarized in the phrase, “Quit trying to make your husband into the man you think he should be and, instead, allow God to make you into the woman He designed you to be”. Often when the husband sees these remarkable, biblical changes in his wife, he will change also. In other words, if you treat him as a king, he may well treat you as his queen. But this is not your purpose.
Every such book can sound theoretical and there are plenty of stories to illustrate how a person’s situation is an exception to the rule. Debi does not skirt these problems but answers tough questions coming from difficult marriage situations. She also deals with intimate subjects in a discrete but clear manner.
The fact that, at this writing, the book is in its 8th printing in four years is a strong endorsement. Some pastors even banned the book from their church, but, on the other hand, the many letters from women (and men) who are grateful for what God did in their marriage as a result of the book testify to its effectiveness in teaching God’s ways for women, as His unique creations.
Debi Pearl is the author of multiple best sellers including Created to Be His Help Meet and Listen To My Dream. You can find out more on her website.